Category: Ain’t NOBODY Got time fo’ Dat!

Think twice before calling someone your BFF

Why do people feel the need to label someone “best friend” “BFF” or “Bestie”? I hate these terms with a passion, and I’ll tell you why.

I’ll admit, it feels nice when someone calls you their BFF. That is until you hear them address their other friends the same way. Wait…what? Why? Feelings can definitely get hurt over this. So much for that special feeling of being somebody’s BFF!

When you call someone your best friend, you are telling that person that you have other friends too, but none as special as him or her. It means something {or it should at least}.

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I have run into this several times recently and I get more and more annoyed each time. I tend to not call people my BFF, best friend, bestie or boo. Many friends are fair weather friends, so I try to keep my friends as just that…friends. Sure, I enjoy the company of some of them more than others, but they are all very dear to me.

I became close with a newer friend a couple of years ago, and it kind of made me happy when she said casually that I was her BFF. We enjoy each other so much. We “get” each other and have revealed personal secrets, we have laughed hysterically, and I can be myself around her. Imagine my surprise when she said on a Facebook post, that her BFF sent her flowers for her birthday! There was a photo of the flowers in her office and she was all smiles. They were lovely, but I didn’t send them. Hmmm, did she think I sent them? No, she has several BFFs apparently. I wish I had known that sooner. It isn’t a huge deal or deal breaker for me, but it does sting a little.

I have two other friends, both of whom I became quite close with over the years. One moved away, and the other friend and I hung out a lot. We had so much fun together, and although I knew I wasn’t her “bestie”, I knew I was special. Flip forward a couple of years and now the other two friends are “besties”. This is all fine with me, BUT when the three of us are out together, I think it’s rude when one of them introduces the other to someone, and calls her “bestie”. So I sit there feeling a bit stupid, frankly, as I am introduced as “my other friend”. Wow. Do they not know that this is hurtful and embarrassing? And using the term every now and them…okay, but it is all of the time, and it is just tiresome. I don’t get why their spouses don’t speak up when they witness this, and say to their wives privately, “Hey, you know that is kind of rude, since you were also close with _____”.

Don’t throw these words around…just don’t. Why can’t we just all be “friends”. Inside, you might prefer one friend over another, but keep that to yourself! Just enjoy your friends!!

All of the names that indicate someone is a BFF, just makes my skin crawl these days.

Oh, and it’s kind of juvenile too, especially for our age group.

Rant over!

Wow…after re-reading this, I sound more jealous than anything else. I’m really not – it’s the principle of the damn thing {and I am BIG on principle}.

Let’s not be politically correct, shall we?

I miss the good old days. The days when you could say whatever you wanted and nobody would blink an eye. Sure some folks might take offense when an “unacceptable” term was used, but most didn’t consider just about every word in the English language to be offensive.

What has this world come to that we have to think long and hard before uttering a word? Do people have nothing better to do with their time than to prey on unsuspecting “talkers”?

Words that are considered to be politically incorrect:

In modern versions of the song “Three Little Indians” taught to young children these days, “three little indians” is being replaced with “three little teddy bears” or “three little soldiers”. Really?

I am very 5’2. But do I get offended when someone uses the term “shrimp” in every day conversation? No, I do not. Actually it just makes me hungry. I’m okay with vertically challenged, just for the record. If someone called me a midget (actually some friends of mine do), I wouldn’t take offense, only because I am not really a “little person”. Oh boy, this is all so confusing. If I were a “little person” and was called a midget, I would sucker punch that person right in the…balls. ¬†Oh wait, is “balls” politically incorrect?

I can see some words that would actually be offensive, like retarded. I don’t use this word, as I have a tremendous amount of compassion for anyone who takes care of another who is mentally handicapped (I hope this is the right term?), or any disabilities, really.

Then of course, there are the ethnic/racial words. I DO know which words not to use, but I also DO get confused on what is acceptable from day to day. Asian American, African American, etc. What about Caucasian American? I really don’t like how divided we are. We are all JUST Americans. Unless said person lives in another country…but I don’t know what the “rules” are other places. Again, this all makes my head spin, and wanting to stab myself in the nugget with an ice pick.

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Some other politically correct words and phrases I have heard lately (and some absolutely kill me) are:

Hymenally challenged. YUP – you guessed it. It means those who are not virgins I guess. Why don’t we just say “virgin” or “not a virgin”? Or maybe hymenally challenged is better than calling someone a slut? I really don’t understand this one. I’m hymenally challenged – how about you?
Culinarily challenged. So instead of a husband saying that his wife’s food tastes like ass, it would be better to call her culinarily challenged. He had better learn to duck and dodge quickly, because I’ll bet she knows very well, how to use a cast iron skillet upside his head.
Person of Size. Because nobody will ever know that what you really mean is “lard ass”.
Living Impaired. It means…dead. Can we just say “dead” instead?
Thought Shower. When people come together to share ideas…because “brainstorm” is offensive to those who are mentally challenged apparently. My gawd…soon we won’t be able to use any words we have grown up with at all.
Fresh Person. Instead of Freshmen/Freshman. Oh c’mon!

To be politically correct, or not to be, that is the…oh fuck it.